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Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Are you getting married shortly?


Though it’s not difficult at all, you should always think of better ways of improving your relationship with your in-laws and show them that you care.
 Erandi’s parents on their birthdays and anniversaries wait eagerly to receive a big surprise from their dearest son-in-law.  Athula knows how to associate them maintaining the relationship as if he was their own son.  Athula gifted special gifts to each person in his and Erandi’s family at their wedding just after the Poruwa ceremony.  Athula’s wife Erandi thinks her hubby is the son-in-law everyone would like to have.
 Believe it or not, your family would be the happiest family if you are maintaining a good rapport with your in-laws.  Remove the relation called son-in-law and be with your wife’s parents as their son and experience the truth.   What’s the relationship you share with them?  Do you consider them as an essential part of your family?  You need to understand a few things to keep them contented and happy.
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You need to respect them.  A girl dreams of a husband who would respect her parents.  A man who would have that opinion is considered to be a great husband.  Respecting them is the way towards their heart.  A girl’s parents always wish and hope that their daughter is doing well at her husband’s place after getting married.  They would want their daughter to be a perfect wife, a good daughter-in-law and a loving mother.  Therefore please don’t complain about your wife to her parents.  Your wife’s parent would be pleased to know that their daughter is happy with you and her in-laws.
 When did you visit your in-laws?  When did you call them to inquire on their well-being?  An impressive son-in-law is expected to be in contact with his in-laws.  He is expected to be emotionally close to them not just have random conversations.  It’s so special if you could develop special bonding with your in-laws.  You can call your mother-in-law and ask her to prepare your favourite dish on the coming weekend, so that you’ll be coming to eat something made by her.
 If your in-laws suggest something new see whether you could look forward to know it better.  Don’t think that they are trying to influence you unnecessarily.  They give suggestions as they would want to see you doing well in life with their daughter.  Don’t get irritated if they say something you don’t like. Take their opinions as a blessing and they will definitely bless you.
 Do you ask for their opinions?  Supposing if you want to buy a new house, you discuss it with your wife, you discuss with your parents, let your kids be aware of it, then why shouldn’t you share the story with your in-laws?  Though your wife pretends that she doesn’t care or doesn’t bother, she does feel hurt when you don’t consider her parents opinion regarding family matters.  Any important decision, no matter what it is just let your in-laws know and ask for their opinions too.
 Love them and try to be friendly with your in-laws.  Find a valid reason to build up a relationship to show them that you care about them and you love to be with them.
 Treat your in-laws as they are your own parents.  Visit them without any occasion just to spend time with them.  Invite them once in a while for a meal at your place.  You may surprise them with an unusual gift.  Wish them on special days.  Take your mother-in-law to visit a temple she likes, if she had been waiting to go there and there had not been a chance for her to go due to busy schedules of others.  If you still don’t get along with your in-laws don’t lose hope.
 First improve your relationship with them.  It is not that hard.  Be creative and brainstorm to come up with ideas to impress your in-laws which will make your life light up by great heights.