All of us have heard fairy tales ending up with the saying ‘They lived happily ever after’. Can that be a realistic possibility in our lives? Is it a myth? Have you tried your best to be in a marriage where you lived a happy life with your husband and children?
Strong and happy marriages lead to secure, well-balanced children. This does not necessarily imply that children living with single parents grow up to be maladjusted individuals as such children can be equally focused and happy as children, and as adults. However, it is needless to say that children do benefit when their parents are happily married.
A happy marriage is one in which both parents deeply love and care for each other. It is not a marriage where parents stay together just for the sake of the children. If there is constant fighting between the parents, a child’s insecurity will deepen further, and it is far better to separate than to subject the child to a constant battle at home.
Similarly, a happy marriage is not one in which the wife is a doormat to the husband and continues in marriage despite abuses being hurled at her all day from her husband or in-laws.
If you are to get others including your children to respect you, you need to first respect yourself. Allowing yourself to be treated badly is the biggest disservice you can do to yourself, and to your family.
If you feel your marriage is not going to work the way you want it to, it is always better to seek counseling. If you are going through a bad period but do not wish to end the marriage, this would be the most appropriate thing which needs to be done as a matter of priority. It is well worth a try. Counselors will always listen objectively to both sides of the story, and will help you put things in perspective. A friend on the other hand listens to only one side of the story, and can hardly be expected to give an objective opinion.
Most parents are not sure whether it is all right to display feelings of affection for each other in front of the kids. Naturally intimate acts of emotion should be done behind closed doors but a harmless kiss every now and then is perfectly fine. In fact, it strengthens your child’s belief in you as a couple, and seeing his parents so happy together increases your child’s sense of security. Through our experience, children whose parents have a loving happy marriage, constantly interacting and joking with one another and occasionally displaying affection for one another, tend to have stronger family ties than children of parents just existing together, fighting a cold war.
Courtesy - Daily Mirror
